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For the Mom Who BLEW It Today. . .
by Barbara Smith

Can we pray?

From the “been there, done that” corner of bad memories of mothering, I am extending a hug. And the assurance that you were not the only mom who was unkind to her child today. May God forgive each of us for not restraining our impatience!

May I pray for you and for all of us who stumbled today and hurt a child. I am going to use Psalm 51 to pray.

Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. It is only because of Your perfect, unfailing love that I see how imperfect, how deficient my love for my children is.

It is only because of the Blood of Your Son that I can ask you to cleanse my iniquity. Today God, I put my own ambitions, my own desires, my own peace and well-being ahead of serving the little child you lent me. And I wounded him, I wronged her by my selfishness.

O righteous Father, forgive me. I was wrong to become exasperated. I was wrong to explode with angry words or icy disdain.

When I humiliated my child, I created a memory that scorched his little heart and wounded Yours.

God forgive me, for I offended you when I offended my child.

Lord, thank you for our children, whereby I might learn Your character and understand a portion of Your heart.

I am ashamed I have not esteemed Your lavish gifts – healthy and loving children, and a loving husband, my health, my home, my church. So many gifts, Father, You have not withheld. And still I want more.

I want my kid to perfectly understand stuff that I never really got in school. I want them to be something I never was:______________________.

If they were in school, I might not see these struggles. Instead of rejoicing that I can strengthen their feeble steps, today I exasperated them, robbing them of some confidence.

God, may the memory of my foolishness today restrain and redirect me tomorrow. But Father, will you take the burden and place it under the Blood of Your Son, forgiving me and cleansing me?

Will you give me another chance to be Your ambassador to my child? Will you purify me and restore the joy of my salvation so that I might teach my children to revere You?

O Lord I am as ignorant of Your beauty and holiness as they are of phonics and math! Keep me from the impulse to criticize, condemn or mock. Let me teach my children with the same kindness you regard my ignorance.

Please God, as you guard my mouth, restrain any facial expressions, eye-rolling, or sudden movements that crush little hearts!

May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart please You, Lord God, and encourage my children.

Thank you God for hearing my prayers in Jesus’ Holy name, I pray.

Today’s memory seems so monstrous – so impossible to overcome, but what does God’s word say? “So he said to me, "This is the word of the LORD. . . 'Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,' says the LORD Almighty.” (Zech 4:6-10) That’s how we will overcome and become the moms we long to be -- not by might, not by power, but by HIS holy Spirit!

None of us is cut out to serve the way God calls us. He must mold us, shape us, refine us – He uses fire to burn the dross. I know you hurt today -- He burned some dross.

By His grace, you will remember and learn from this. And by His grace you and I will not lose our temper by thought, word or deed. By His grace, you and I can seek first HIS Kingdom and HIS righteousness, leaving to HIM to see to it that the work that HE wants done will get done.

We will start with a simple prayer of confession, repentance and re-commitment to the job God has placed before us, and with HIM we can scale a wall. Therefore, do not despise the day of small beginnings!

Love in Christ,

© Barbara W. Smith 1999, all rights reserved
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